Yesterday was a sloppy day for me..Woke up around 10am and straight to my laptop. After that I hauled my ass up to One Utama Shopping Centre to buy some shoes, not that I have too much money to splurge on the unnecessary stuff but just to use up the coupons/vouchers that I have that will be expiring today. Later at night, saw some mail in my mailbox from a girl in the U.K. who would like her story published on this blog. This is not about a girl protesting Kate Middleton wanting to marry Prince Williams but rather a true life story of growing up, love and long distance relationship plus hard sacrifices. May be anyone of you out there has an idea on how to tackle this tricky situation. For the girl, I wish her all the best.
I’m in UK now, pursuing phD. So I’m not that young anymore. I left someone special back home; my boyfriend. Our love story isn’t like any other.He’s a year older than me & we knew each other through a very weird way. Someone gave him my hp number but he wouldn’t say it only I bet I’d also know that someone if he/she has my hp no. He wouldn’t tell me until now, saying I’ll know it once we marry but I will never know now. We will never get married though we planned to because my boyfriend is ill. Terminally ill.
What is weird about our love story is that we have never met each other until now. He first smsed me than gradually call & so began our frienship that turned to love. We are the complete opposite to each other; me a bad-tempered person & him the most patient one I’ve ever known. I got really pissed off at him the first time he called (for not telling me who gave him my no.) and was shouting over the phone but he took it like a man; keep quiet, apologize and talk gently. Guess that’s what attracts me. But of course we also share some other things, the obvious is our stubbornness.
I knew of his illness from his msgs and calls, he hinted & gave clues. Up until now he would never tell me his real condition but with an illness like his, I’m not stupid either. He asked why I didn’t run even after he told me he’s gonna die. I had no answer as I really don’t know. All I know is that I really love him whether he’s ill or not. And, not for his wealth either. He’s rich, has his own company with a branch but I only got to know it after I fall in love with him. As it is, money can’t buy anything. It certainly can’t buy him good health.
He has a very dark story nobody will ever believe. It all started with him being in an accident some years ago. He lost his memory (we didn’t know each other then) and his nephew died. But he didn’t know about his nephew; his family, relatives, friends & staff kept it a secret. 13 months ago, his father told him the truth out of guilt. He cried as he told me about it and couldn’t eat for days. Feeling guilty, he apologized to his sis-in-law but she wouldn’t forgive him. His mistake was going over to her when his brother was away (accidentally at that time). She is so pissed off about it she started haunting his life, at the same time warning him not to tell his brother. To make a long story short; he fell for her tricks & was framed. He was drugged, raped (if that term can be use on a man) & blackmailed with a video of it.
Maybe people will tell me I’m stupid for still staying with him after all that but I know he’s innocent. I still keep her threat msgs to him & a piece of the video. However, the worse has not end yet. His condition got worse from stress (oh yeah, she kept blackmailing him) but because he’s so damn stubborn, he wouldn’t go for surgery. Only after much pleading & begging did he do it. & what a mess it was after that as he lost his memory again due to surgery. It put a stress on our relationship at first but I stood by, patiently waiting. Until he came back to me.
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The surgery wasn’t really a success & him not wanting to continue with treatment made it worse. Plus his problems with sis-in-law & recently, his brother. Before he went for surgery he told the brother he knew the truth & the brother thought his wife didn’t know. Hence, preventing my boyfriend to tell her. He didn’t wanna put a stress to their marriage so he kept mum about it. But just before I went to UK, his brother tried to sabotage his business. It really put a tight strain to their relationship.
And now, things have gone for the worst. My boyfriend has been in the hospital a few days after Raya last year. I just got to know from his little brother last week that he’s now in coma. He didn’t reply my msgs so I got really worried. The little brother wouldn’t tell me at first & pretend to be my boyfriend but he couldn’t fool me. Apparently my boyfriend has given up, left a note to take him home & to never let me know. It is because of him I’m here (he pleaded for me to do phD, for him) and it’s because of him too that I may not be able to fulfill his wish. He promised me his younger brother will let me know if anything ever happens to him & to never give up but he broke his own promise. Should I hold on to my promise too since he didn’t? I don’t think so.
Miserable in london…
Take care dear..
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at 4:24 am
Fayz, orang Malaysia ni semua matang. Tak payah kau nak bawa buku cerita cinta kat kita orang. Ini macam kebudak-budakkan saja, tolong paparkan isu yg lebih matang lagi. Bukan marah, just nak bagi cadangan!
at 8:08 am
Kalau benar2 nak huraikan teori cinta, semua individu mempunyai perspektif, pandangan dan kemahuan yg berbeza. Yg penting cinta yang benar2 tulen dan sejati tak boleh diperdagangkan dengan rasa simpati atau mengasihi orang yg kita rasa kesian kat dia. Perasaan sebegini ada jurang perbezaan, dalam makna lain perasaan cinta dan sayang lahir secara semulajadi dalam dir hati kita dan bukan di dorong oleh isu yg membantu kita menglahirkan rasa cinta.
Fayz, kau menyebabkan aku terjerumus dalam komen ni.
at 8:14 am
Kaum wanita dalam zaman yg mencabar ni, kenalah berhati2 dalam isu pemilihan jodoh, bukan senang nak menamakan sebuah mahligai perkahwinan yang berpanjangan, banyak pancar roba dan liku2 kehidupan
dalam diari sebuah keluarga bahagia.
at 1:12 pm
Maybelline..thanks for your opinion, cuba anda fikirkan sejenak..jika semua orang malaysia matang kenapa berlaku kes munirah tertipu membawa dadah ke jepun diperdaya lelaki arab? dan juga wujud kes seperti di atas? Masalah cinta ada di mana2 sahaja..Mereka yang matang juga kekadang ternoda dan terpedaya akibat nafsu dan juga perasaan cinta yang buta..
Jika ada isu yang lebih matang..boleh saya paparkan di sini..mari sama-sama beringat dan mengingati..
Lagi satu berapa ramai di antara kita yang boleh mendabik dada mengaku dirinya adalah seorang romantik? Banyak saya dengar komplen sana-sini..untuk itu saya paparkan buku percuma mengenai cinta romantis..
nak baca ke tak nak baca terserah..just think someone somewhere will benefit..
at 3:20 am
You’re very welcome, fayz. Kalau nak pandang di sekeliling kita banyak isu yg kita harus tangani, bukan saja hal cinta tapi seratus persoalan tentang hal kesihatan, kewangan dan yg paling penting ilmu agama yg menjadi naluri, doronga dan isi hidup yg memimpin destinasi perjalanan hidup.
Saya tidak menolak dakwaan cinta dan kasih sayang penting dlm hidup semua insan. Secara tegasnya, saya tidak mengambil isu ini remeh-temeh. Perkara yg memaklumkan saya ialah secara peribadi, “teori” atau konsep cinta tu lebih daripada cinta atau kasih sayang kita terima daripada kawan, keluarga mahupun masyarakat dalam kehidupan seharian.
Tetapi apa yg penting untuk dijadikan pedoman adalah material atau bahan yg dijadikan cabaran untuk kita menentukan pemilihan hati tepat pada tujuan, kemampuan , dan keputusan yg memang kita benar2 mengerti dan tahu selok-belok tanpa rasa tertekan ataupun rasa tidak tahu arah tujuan kenapa kita melakukan sesuatu keputusan.
Tanya diri kita tiga persoalan penting iaitu apakah tujuan, kemampuan dan kesan2 yg akan timbul dari keputusan kita untuk melengkapkan sesuatu situasi atau yg berhubung rapat dengan isu2 kehidupan.
fayz, saya harap dah jawab persoalan anda. Take care!!
at 3:35 am
Fayz, bukan nak ejek kamu for your writing, tapi MAYBELINE bukannnya nak protest atau nak heboh2 you punya “style of spending” tak payahlah kau tulis:
“not that I have too much money to splurge on the unnecessary stuff but just to use up the coupons/vouchers that I have that will be expiring today”
Tak payahlah felt guilty for spending things that you need vs things that tempted you to buy. Sometimes coupon & vouchers are the devil bullets for the consumers to spend more than they should for their daily expenditures. If you really found a precise pair of shoes that you really need and affordable, feel free to enjoy your indulgence.
at 4:39 am
Fayz, again just to make you feel more at ease and comfortable with my recent note, your new pair of shoe might not be as costlier than the one you might have seen in Piccadilly London.
Oh, don’t worry about our royal celebrity couple, Datuk K and Datuk Siti,their lifestyles is almost living in the hub of Piccadilly every day even though their homeland is in Malaysia.
at 1:11 am
maybelline thank you for a useful discussion..i enjoy reading your comments..keep it coming..
yup new shoes not really jimmy choo’s
at 8:36 am
Fayz, thanks for the effort replying my remarks, and if you’re truly sincerely with your thoughts, please be prepare with my stubbornness with your clients. You might not lose them but they’ll have a hard time with MAYBELINE. just kidding!
Sincerely, MAYBELINE. May Allah Bless You!